Leading a Happy Marriage as a Muslim
What are the ways that we can practice to lead a healthy and happy relationship with our spouse as a Muslim? As I came across a book called, ‘The Muslim Marriage Guide’ by Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood, I have found keys and a few rules of a happy marriage that every individual, especially Muslims, should be aware of and apply it in their married lives.
In this article, I am going to share my understanding from the keys and a few important rules of a happy marriage according to Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood in her book. A happy marriage is built on a foundation of mutual respect, love, and shared values. Additionally, there are specific rules that can help maintain harmony and joy in marriage.
What are the Keys to a Happy Marriage?
There are two main keys of a happy marriage in Islam: (1) Love Allah and apply His principles and (2) sensible soul-search and analysis.
1. Love Allah and Apply His Principles
A happy marriage begins with a deep love for Allah and a commitment to living according to His principles. This spiritual foundation helps couples navigate the complexities of married life with a shared purpose and values. By prioritizing their relationship with Allah, couples can find strength, guidance, and a sense of unity that transcends everyday challenges.
Moreover, it is crucial for strengthening both iman and the marital relationship. The love and mercy derived from a strong connection with Allah create a solid foundation for a loving, compassionate, and fulfilling marriage.
2. Sensible Soul-Search and Analysis
Before embarking on the journey of marriage, it's crucial to conduct a thorough self-analysis. This includes evaluating one's physical, emotional, and spiritual needs and ensuring alignment with a potential partner.
Understanding personal and aligned mutual goals, strengths, communication and understanding the depth of commitment for areas of growth can prevent future conflicts and foster a deeper connection as a strong foundation for the relationship. By taking these steps, couples can enter into marriage with clarity, readiness, and a shared vision for the future.
What are the rules for a Happy Marriage?
Here we uncover few tips and rules for a happy marriage from the book:
Speak with Love: Regularly tell each other that you love each other. Verbal expressions of love and appreciation strengthen the emotional bond and reaffirm your commitment.
Pray Together: Praying together at least once a day can deepen your spiritual connection and provide a sense of shared purpose. It creates a space for mutual support and reflection on your relationship's spiritual dimension.
Remember It Takes Two to Quarrel: Acknowledge that conflicts are a part of any relationship, but it takes two to argue. Approach disagreements with a mindset of resolution and understanding rather than confrontation.
Say Something Kind Daily: Make it a habit to say something kind to each other every day. Small gestures of kindness and appreciation can significantly impact your relationship's positivity and warmth.
Listen Attentively: When your partner is speaking, listen actively and attentively. This shows respect and helps build a deeper understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings.
Remember Anniversaries: Celebrating anniversaries and special dates demonstrates that you value your shared history and look forward to creating more memories together.
Notice and Act on Signs of Fatigue: Pay attention to when your spouse looks tired and take proactive steps to help them. This could be through offering to handle household chores, providing emotional support, or simply being there for them.
Conclusion
A happy marriage is grounded in love, respect, and shared spiritual values. By loving Allah, applying His principles, conducting a thorough self-analysis, and following practical rules for daily interactions, couples can build a strong, enduring, and joyful relationship. These principles not only enhance the bond between partners but also create a harmonious and supportive environment for both to thrive.
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